The following is something I wrote about 4 years ago. At the time I was writing it more for myself than for anyone else, but reading over it now it seems like some good advice and a good reminder that we should always do what we feel we should. Looking back, this was right around a time that I started making some changes in how I viewed life. There have been many stages like that, but this was one of them.
There are now a few things I would maybe change in the wording of what is written below, but I thought I would present it how it was originally written. For the most part I still rings true with me 
Enjoy…
An acomodador – something in our life that prevents us from moving forward.
Why is it that we always view life according to a plan? We are born, we grow up, we go to school, we find a pleasant partner that we hope to grow old with, we stay in a job that “isn’t what we really want to do,” we often live in a place we don’t like just because that job is there, we buy a house, get a mortgage because we are taught it is a good investment, we contribute to a retirement plan, we become bored with our partner and we pass it off as “mature love”. We are taught that this is “right”, or it is at least what occurs and it is “normal”.
Something has happened to us. We give up on what is really important – living our life and chasing our dream. We start to think that it is wrong to have childhood fantasies, let alone pursue them. Yet the more mature and experienced we become, the more important it is to embrace that inner child. To embrace the dreams that we have now, despite the fact that they are outside the typical and what is “responsible”.
Responsibility is being accountable to ourselves and who, what and where we want to be. We do no one any favors by pretending we are happy with our life (if we really aren’t), we only perpetuate the cycle. There is no honor in lying to ourselves or to others. We are not required to suffer. At some point we need to take our hand out of the fire. It is a simple concept, why is it so hard to apply to life?
There is nothing in this world that makes us stay in a place we don’t like, a job we hate, or a with partner we longer have any passion with (we seem to give up on this – rekindle that passion as it is entirely up to you!) Now I know what you will say, “I got bills to pay”, “I can’t rekindle the passion (how hard did you try? really?)”, “my family is here”. Here is the plan again. Do we ever question why we do things? Or do we just do them because everyone else is doing them? If most people do it this way, then it must be good, right? I think not.
We are all blind men in a cave, looking for something to give us some guidance, thus the first thing we find in the darkness (the unknown) we latch onto. We form a group, and the group is for the most part ill informed because they have not explored the rest of the darkness. They cluster at the very beginning of the journey and this is where most people stay. They don’t realize that there are paths beyond and others waiting for them further into the unknown. These people have faced their fears and pushed on.
Despite my fears I am going to push into the darkness. I am going to change the way I live my life, simply because it is a change and it will teach me something. I want to meet other people who run headlong into the darkness (again, by this I simply mean the unknown). The thing about exploring further is that we actually feel less alone. The more we explore our own experiences and the experiences of other, the more we should begin to realize that we are not alone in anything. There is always someone else who knows what we are going through. We just need to move beyond the superficial relationships that we commonly form in order to find this. We need to open up and share our experiences, and others will share their experiences with us.
I just want to push my limits, and not do things just because they are expected of me, or because they are a habit and ingrained because of the society we live in. I am not saying I will be non-conformist. I am simply saying I want to pursue my own life, and not the same life as everyone else. I want to pursue my dreams, and if that seems selfish, well, I actually disagree. Not pursuing the life that I want will result in a life that does not make me truly happy, despite what lies I might tell myself. If I am not a truly happy person, that will eventually filter out to those around me and those I love. But if I embark on a journey, that at that time in my life is what I feel I need to do, then I will be fulfilled and that joy will spill over into the lives of others. I break the cycle of what I will call leading a “lukewarm” life. Will doing these things increase the quality of my life? I don’t know, but it is worth a try I think.
It seems that a lot of people are searching for something but latch on to the wrong ideals. I am not here to judge the choices that people make, for my actions will also be judged, but I am acting according to my heart and I think that counts for something. I am not saying that the conventional life is wrong or anything like that, maybe it is only me that feels restless with the normality of it all. Restless with the fact that we don’t really choose our life, we just kind of float along with it. Everyone has a different path, I only encourage them to follow what their heart tells them to do despite their fears. I now know, for absolutely sure that I need to make some changes. There are fears I need to challenge and unknowns I need to embrace. I am sure that we could all benefit from pushing our limits, even just a little.
~Cory Mitchell